"When you're an outsider, in order to make it okay you haveto embrace that otherness of yourself, that you live on the outside. And many of us unconsciously don't want to totally give that up. I like it. We're used to being different and being on the outside. Now, with marriage, you're just like everyone else. So there is a resistance to it." -- Leslie Cohen
"So, lesbian and gay people have formed very complex families, and need more flexible norms." -- Katherine Franke
While same sex marriage can do great things for some couples, it also stands to obliterate the different forms of familial and other relational bonds that queers have learned to form. What is the cost of forgoing our queerness in the quest for equality?