tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6522876.post507450062062257096..comments2012-10-25T06:11:12.067-05:00Comments on My Three Dollars Worth: NPR: Lesbian Couples Wed More than Gay MenMichaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08345076657753826652noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6522876.post-76385994359970400202011-09-02T10:18:30.392-05:002011-09-02T10:18:30.392-05:00Z, thanks. I see marriage equality as being predo...Z, thanks. I see marriage equality as being predominantly a conversation about rights for those with socio-economic privilege and the vast majority of that group being white. The conversation seems to have never conceptualized relationships that don't ape traditional heterosexual marriage and has ramped up to where it reifies traditional heterosexual norms about marriage. <br /><br />A queer friend of mine questioned the rhetoric coming from NC Equality (the NC chapter of the HRC) that shows contempt for polygamy and alternative, consentual adult sexual relationships and arrangements. (The "imperialism" of gay marriage rhetoric he called it, which I just love.) Sadly, the gay rights movment has largely gone beyond seeking similar rights to completely abdicating queer liberational ideals. And I say gay rights because it is about a mainstream definition of "gay." Those who fall outside the very narrow parameters of this definition are not included in the conversation and are usually sacrificed on its altar.Michaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08345076657753826652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6522876.post-50898723249087188242011-08-01T22:47:24.610-05:002011-08-01T22:47:24.610-05:00This is a great phrasing of an important question,...This is a great phrasing of an important question, Michael. I worry that the way gay marriage is talked about we as a community are not being critical enough about what it would (or could) mean and look like to actually be married. I can appreciate a conversation about benefits and rights, but what of how we create chosen families and bonds with one another without the need for hegemonic relationship norms?Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18428250633045988193noreply@blogger.com